The Original Homeschooling Series by Charlotte Mason.
In Lies Homeschooling Moms Believe, Todd Wilson asks why some homeschooling moms brag about their accomplishments or hobbies. I think there are many types of women who seem to “brag”
- Some women are just that self-centered. They fail to realize that the universe does not revolve around them and that no one is as interested in their lives as they are.
- Some women are actually insecure, and they want to put up a brave front. They have never been accepted just as they are.
- Some women became accustomed to receiving so much attention in their younger years that they feel the need to establish a more age-appropriate identity through their homeschooling prowess.
- Some women know that they are failing desperately in other areas of their lives; so they try to shift the focus from those areas to the areas in which they excel.
- Some women truly do not intend to brag. They simply want to make conversation or want to be helpful to other homeschooling moms. Their tact is just lacking, or other moms perceive them inaccurately.
The question is, which woman am I?
Mother Goose on the Loose was originally intended for use in libraries, but it would be a good option for co-op classes.
In Lies Homeschooling Mom’s Believe, Todd Wilson asks whether you are encouraged or discouraged by homeschooling books and magazines. Because there is a plethora of reading material available, it is necessary to prioritize what you will spend your time reading. Here are some questions to ask yourself when selecting reading material.
- Does the material speak the truth? If it does not rightly divide God’s Word, then get rid of it.
- Does this make you feel encouraged or discouraged? Do you feel more hopeful and confident in your role as a homeschool mom? Or do you feel less confident and not joyful about the task before you? Do not continue to read things that discourage you.
- Does the material equip you to be a better homeschool mom? Are the tips and how-tos practical and applicable to your stage of life? Do you already have a system that works? There is no reason to fix what is not broken. If you do not think that something will work with your family, do not try it.
- Does this book or magazine convict you of areas that need improvement in a loving way? An author may be speaking the truth, but it does no good if the reader is too beaten up to even try to improve.
- Is this book or magazine of interest to you? Who cares if other homeschool moms are reading books about how a new super diet is guaranteed to make children brain surgeons? If you do not like reading books about nutrition, do not read them. And that goes for any other subject or style of writing that you abhor.
There are so many books and so little time. Why spend time reading homeschool books and magazines that do not make you happier and better at your job?
Todd Wilson, in Lies Homeschooling Moms Believe, asks why women compare children, houses, and spirituality. Here are my thoughts.
God designed women to be the raisers of children and the keepers of homes. At the same time, they all desire to be godly. Therefore, women draw their identities from children, homes, and godliness. They perceive the children, homes, and godliness of other women to be a certain way. Then, if they are not at least as good as these perceptions, they feel as if they have no worth. The problem is, they cannot see behind the closed doors of these other women. The only comparison that women need to make is to the word of God. Are you keeping your home and training your children in godliness? Are you more holy now than you were before? Then you are on the right track.
I think another reason that women compare children, homes, and godliness is that they have spent too many hours dwelling on Proverbs 31. Please do not get the impression that I think women should not strive to meet the qualities of the Proverbs 31 woman. However, dwelling on it to the point that other passages of Scripture are neglected is unhealthy. Women should take in the full counsel of God’s Word. Also, women need to remember that this is a DESCRIPTION of a woman. It is not a COMMANDMENT. Keeping a home and raising children will look different for every woman and will even vary according seasons of life. Should I invest heaps of money that I do not have in wool and flax and take up spinning and weaving (Prov. 31:13a)? No. Should I willing work with my hands (Prov. 31:13b)? Of course. But just because I do not have a field or a vineyard does not mean that I am not being a keeper at home.
Ladies, let us stop comparing ourselves to one another and take in the full counsel of God’s word.
Here are some more thoughts sprung from Todd Wilson’s Lies Homeschooling Mom’s Believe.
Everyone, especially homeschooling moms, perceive things differently than they really are. Sometimes the misperceptions are huge, and sometimes the misperceptions are small. And often the perceptions are so real that we act upon them.
I have certain fears as a homeschooling mom that have recently gotten so out of control that they have affected my homeschool schedule. I have made changes and cut out certain activities based upon how I think other people think of me. These fears have also spilled over into leisure activities. I have made my children’s lives less pleasurable because I fear that something bad will happen if we continue certain habits.
Reading this book has caused me to look at myself and question whether my decisions are based upon fact or fiction. Am I making a wise decision, or am I just being a coward? Have I allowed my fears to put shackles on me and my children?
It will take some time to deal with these doubts, but now that I have realized that they are there, I feel a certain amount of freedom.
What are some misperceptions that might be holding you back?
No Regrets is an atypical perspective of homeschooling because it is written by the student rather than the teacher.